Free ‘Discovery Quiz': Learn WHY Your Loving Words Secretly Shut Down Men’s Feelings– And the Surprising Words That Spark a Man’s Passion
The truth is, even when a woman convinces herself that she’s not thinking about love, or not trying to be attractive, she is, consciously or unconsciously, doing countless little things to catch attract men’s attention, or to drive men away, or, quite often, both.
And because most women don’t give themselves permission to really think about the specifics of how they communicate and relate to men, they wind up attracting men by default… men who dissatisfy them. Or, for that matter, they wind up losing the men they want the same way they met them… unconsciously, and by default.
Sometimes, doing things unconsciously doesn’t mean that you’re doing them in an inspired way, and according to what Fate wants… sometimes, it just means that you’re doing them, well, unconsciously. That is, without awareness, without sensitivity, without curiosity; that, in fact, you’re doing stuff, without a clue as to what you’re doing… even, and especially, if you find yourself doing these things time and time again.
This practice women are taught, of not giving themselves permission to really understand the specifics of how they relate to men, is part of something larger: The Patience Model. The Patience Model is the idea that a woman has to wait for some man to choose her… and that it’s wrong for a woman to secretly choose who she wants, and then subtly lead him into chasing eagerly after her.
The Patience Model tends to leave you with a very limited range of choices: basically, only those offered directly to you. That is, with the Patience Model, your only real shot is with men who, seeing you wait around and therefore pumped up with a temporary shot of I-guess-she-doesn’t-have-any-other-options courage, decide to approach you. Typically, these men will be of approximately your level of attractiveness– or often, much lower.
The Patience Model lines you up next to all the other women in the room, forcing you to compete against other women on the basis of who looks prettiest and most available. And you’re competing for men who you might not really want to be chosen by.
Of course, if a woman is prepared to settle for whatever men luck brings her way, then the Patience Model is fine; but the more that a woman wants a truly high-quality man, one who can satisfy her for the long-term, the more that she’ll need to bring awareness and intent and conscious choice to bear.
The more choice you want, the more you need to give yourself permission to notice the world around you, and the more you must be willing to give yourself… Read more…